Unsolicited Marriage Solicitor

As they say, when time passes by swiftly, it means you have had a good time. It’s been over 15 months now and it still feels as if I got married last week only. All thanks to my life partner, Hema, who has made life all the more beautiful for me and worth living a thousand time over. I can’t thank you enough for coming into my life.

The beautiful thought of two people tying the knot and being united in mind, spirit and body (urrgh…I can see a lot of imaginative minds working overtime) has struck a chord with me. But, at times, it also directs my attention towards current crop’s take on it.  A lot of bachelors I meet in my social circle voice their thoughts about marriage being a dreadful prospect. Reason? They say with it comes responsibilities and accountability which will curb their free way of life. Come on guys! I mean this is no reason to delay what is a logical next step in life once you settle down in the cushion of a well-paid job. Some say they get afraid of what they see happening around them. Rising divorce cases, bickering couples, frustrated and struggling spouses are a great deterrent. This argument also doesn’t hold much water for me. For every one such bad case, I am sure, there must be 10 good examples which are worth emulating. To cut the long argument short, I would say you are not required to form your opinions - which become stronger by the day and transform into misplaced beliefs later - basis one or two examples in society. These cases are mere aberrations and not the norm.

As for your freedom, who said that you can’t follow your spirit after getting married!? Just try to win your life-partner’s confidence and trust…and be a bit more giving. Trust me, your life will change only for better. And not for one second fool yourself into thinking that it is fun being a wanderer and a footloose all your life. It will get too boring that way. Won’t it?! I am only too sure that you will come to realize this sooner than later and understand the point I am trying to drive home.

 I can say so because, as a bachelor, I too had my own share of doubts but all my misgivings about the limitations of a married life turned out to be mere illusions. And all of them flew out of the window within one week of meeting my life partner and how!  Now, having lived a considerable period of time together, I have wisened to the fact that life becomes more interesting and double the fun when you get hitched to a person who is on the same wavelength as you.

Take my case. My initial doubts about marriage had its roots well placed though. To begin with, I am not at all an easy person to get along with. My idiosyncrasies have the making of a legend but that’s another story. Hema has walked into my life like a fresh breeze. She has complemented me in more ways than one. We are like the proverbial foil to each other. She has helped me become a balanced person today and I feel better equipped to take on the challenges of life.

See, don’t read this blog as if it has been written by a person too obsessed with his marital status and already cutting loose with unsolicited ‘gyaan’ to the unmarried ones. The problem - Yes! It is called a ‘problem’ nowadays - with me is that whatever good & happiness I experience in life, I wish the same for all the people I care about in life. And thus, pieces like this keep coming out of me.

 I know, for a marriage to become successful, it needs to go through the vicissitudes of life and come out victorious. As a married couple, we have just embarked on that journey.  We still have a long way to go but we know that we have started well and as someone has rightly said, “well begun is half done.”

So, the whole thing is that ki bhaiyya main ye nahi keh raha hu ki you should rush into marriage for the heck of it. Nahi. Bilkul nahi. All I am saying is take your time, meet like-minded people and see where it goes from there. My advice to everyone who think they are better off being single is simple and straight – give marriage a chance. Believe me, it can do wonders to your life….and if it doesn’t do so, well….I will not shy away from writing another piece for you!

Stay happy, stay blessed. J