As
they say, when time passes by swiftly, it means you have had a good time. It’s
been over 15 months now and it still feels as if I got married last week only. All
thanks to my life partner, Hema, who has made life all the more beautiful for
me and worth living a thousand time over. I can’t thank you enough for coming
into my life.
The
beautiful thought of two people tying the knot and being united in mind, spirit
and body (urrgh…I can see a lot of imaginative minds working overtime) has
struck a chord with me. But, at times, it also directs my attention towards
current crop’s take on it. A lot of
bachelors I meet in my social circle voice their thoughts about marriage being
a dreadful prospect. Reason? They say with it comes responsibilities and
accountability which will curb their free way of life. Come on guys! I mean this
is no reason to delay what is a logical next step in life once you settle down
in the cushion of a well-paid job. Some say they get afraid of what they see
happening around them. Rising divorce cases, bickering couples, frustrated and
struggling spouses are a great deterrent. This argument also doesn’t hold much
water for me. For every one such bad case, I am sure, there must be 10 good
examples which are worth emulating. To cut the long argument short, I would say
you are not required to form your opinions - which become stronger by the day
and transform into misplaced beliefs later - basis one or two examples in
society. These cases are mere aberrations and not the norm.
As
for your freedom, who said that you can’t follow your spirit after getting
married!? Just try to win your life-partner’s confidence and trust…and be a bit
more giving. Trust me, your life will change only for better. And not for one
second fool yourself into thinking that it is fun being a wanderer and a
footloose all your life. It will get too boring that way. Won’t it?! I am only
too sure that you will come to realize this sooner than later and understand
the point I am trying to drive home.
I can say so because, as a bachelor, I too had
my own share of doubts but all my misgivings about the limitations of a married
life turned out to be mere illusions. And all of them flew out of the window
within one week of meeting my life partner and how! Now, having lived a considerable period of
time together, I have wisened to the fact that life becomes more interesting
and double the fun when you get hitched to a person who is on the same
wavelength as you.
Take
my case. My initial doubts about marriage had its roots well placed though. To
begin with, I am not at all an easy person to get along with. My idiosyncrasies
have the making of a legend but that’s another story. Hema has walked into my
life like a fresh breeze. She has complemented me in more ways than one. We are
like the proverbial foil to each other. She has helped me become a balanced
person today and I feel better equipped to take on the challenges of life.
See,
don’t read this blog as if it has been written by a person too obsessed with
his marital status and already cutting loose with unsolicited ‘gyaan’ to the
unmarried ones. The problem - Yes! It is called a ‘problem’ nowadays - with me
is that whatever good & happiness I experience in life, I wish the same for
all the people I care about in life. And thus, pieces like this keep coming out
of me.
I know, for a marriage to become successful, it
needs to go through the vicissitudes of life and come out victorious. As a
married couple, we have just embarked on that journey. We still have a long way to go but we know
that we have started well and as someone has rightly said, “well begun is half
done.”
So,
the whole thing is that ki bhaiyya main
ye nahi keh raha hu ki you should rush into marriage for the heck of it. Nahi. Bilkul nahi. All I am saying is
take your time, meet like-minded people and see where it goes from there. My
advice to everyone who think they are better off being single is simple and
straight – give marriage a chance. Believe me, it can do wonders to your
life….and if it doesn’t do so, well….I will not shy away from writing another
piece for you!
Stay
happy, stay blessed. J
